The Unexpected Story of My Year Without Sex

Book - 2010
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Seeking love in an age obsessed with sex, a journalist chronicles her year without

On the eve of her thirtieth birthday, Hephzibah Anderson glimpsed her college boyfriend going into a jewelry store with a smiling blonde-and in that moment realized it had been years since a man told her he loved her. This discovery led her to question a decade of emotionally frustrating relationships with commitment phobes. As she examined her past, she recognized that most of these relationships went off course at the precise moment sex was involved. Anderson decided it was time to spend a full year without sex to rediscover its meaning and purpose in her life. In this confessional account, Anderson shares the results of that year, narrating each month as she flirts, dates, and swoons but doesn't have sex. The results-her feelings about femininity, her body, and romance-are illuminating.

Told with Elizabeth Gilbertesque candor, Chastened reveals much about our contradictory cultural attitudes towards sex and the ways intercourse has been used as a shortcut to deeper intimacies. An antidote to the growing genre of another-notch-in-the-bedpost memoirs, Chastened is a refreshing look at what's to be gained by going without.
Publisher: New York : Viking, 2010
Edition: 1st American ed
ISBN: 9780670021864
Branch Call Number: 306.732 An23c
Characteristics: xix, 264 p. ; 24 cm


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Dec 27, 2012

This book is about nothing. Big deal - a year without sex! What sacrifice so ridiculous! The author lacks brevity. It's hard to read this book because of the intricate pretentious style of writing.

May 09, 2011

A sophisticated read, however, even with the big wording and run on sentences I found that thre was very little about the vow of chasitity and how it pertained to a young woman in her 30's. I keep waiting for the story to take off .. it never did. However I did find that there must be something said about the chaste woman. The ever growing mystery that we cannot put our finger on yet hangs in everything they do, say, and wear. A sort of sex appeal. Weird how that works! When she swore off sex she was a magnet for potential relationships/bootycalls. Just as when a junkie gets clean there are readily available drugs at his disposal (and free no less).

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