New Strong-willed Child

New Strong-willed Child

Birth Through Adolescence

Book - 2004
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2005 Gold Medallion Award finalist! Dr. James Dobson has completely rewritten, updated, and expanded his classic best seller The Strong-Willed Child for a new generation of parents and teachers. The New Strong-Willed Child follows on the heels of Dr. Dobson's phenomenal best seller Bringing Up Boys. It offers practical how-to advice on raising difficult-to-handle children and incorporates the latest research with Dr. Dobson's legendary wit and wisdom. The New Strong-Willed Child is being rushed to press for parents needing help dealing with sibling rivalry, adhd, low self-esteem, and other important issues. This book is a must-read for parents and teachers struggling to raise and teach children who are convinced they should be able to live by their own rules!
Publisher: Wheaton, IL : Tyndale House : 2004
ISBN: 9780842336222
0842336222
Branch Call Number: 649.1 D656n
Characteristics: 219p illus

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naturalist
Mar 26, 2016

about the author, at Right Wing Watch
http://www.rightwingwatch.org/category/people/james-dobson
and,
about Focus on the Family, also from Right Wing Watch
http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/focus-family
and,
the author in action,
by Bethania Palma Markus, posted September 16, 2015, to Raw Story
“Republicans push to change NC law so Christians can teach public school kids abstinence-only sex ed”
http://www.rawstory.com/2015/09/republicans-push-to-change-nc-law-so-christians-can-teach-public-school-kids-abstinence-only-sex-ed/
and,
“Gay marriage could lead to “civil war”: The Christian right’s latest bigoted theory – In a recent conference call, James Dobson explained how legalizing gay marriage would send America into disarray”
by Colin Gorenstein, posted April 10, 2015, to Salon
http://www.salon.com/2015/04/10/gay_marriage_could_lead_to_civil_war_the_christian_rights_latest_bigoted_theory/

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DoctorFuntimes
Jul 04, 2015

Are you tired of baby and childcare manuals that encourage parents to treat their children with kindness and respect?

Have you ever seen a child stand up for a friend and thought she needed a good spanking?

Did you ever leave a doggie obedience school thinking, “Wow. I’ll bet that advice would work even better on my kids!”

Then do I have the book for you!

When I was a child, a well-worn copy of this book was always on my parents’ shelf. I never questioned it. I was taught not to question my parents, that everything they did was for my benefit, and so I didn’t think to ask what was in the book they read. Then I grew up and decided to check out this book’s content for myself.

I made it 32 pages in. I should’ve run away crying by page 20.

Dobson is renowned in many circles for his wise childcare advice. And to be perfectly honest, I can see why. A young couple, disturbed by their infant’s fondness for climbing out of his crib, might take comfort in the notion that this behavior is due to his lack of moral fiber and not any failure on their part. A mother, who refuses to give her toddler anything to drink for hours because he refuses to say Please, would be relieved to hear Dobson praise her for winning a battle. A father, unsure of his own abilities, would find a friend in Dobson, who writes from the assumption that parents are always right.

This is the rotten core of Dobson’s philosophy: The endgame, he claims, is not happy, well-adjusted children who know when and how to stand up for themselves, but children who obey without question or argument. Good children, according to Dobson, are children who want to please their parents more than anything. A happy child is one who has admitted that their parents are always right, who uses their gifts and talents to please their parents and make them look good to the community.

Children are divided into two categories: compliant and strong-willed. A compliant child is a child who does what they are told, sleeps through the night, and feels an enormous crisis of conscience when they displease their parents. A strong-willed child is one who wakes up at odd hours, tells their parents “No,” and acts to please themselves rather than their parents. Truly compliant children, according to Dobson, are rare. The only way to have a compliant child is to force a strong-willed child to become one.

Did I say “force”? Dobson wouldn’t use that term. He might say “guide” or “teach,” but “force” and “manipulate” better fit his methods. I made it partway through an interview with mothers of strong-willed children, where he praises them for winning wrestling matches with their toddlers (flavored with a good bit of sexism, when he says that a man’s “masculine presence” makes children want to mind more than a woman’s nurturing one), withholding affection, and taking a child to the elders of her church for stealing a cinnamon stick from a bathroom potpourri mix.

I know I gave this book half a star, but I do believe it has value. It offers unparalleled insight into the mind of an abusive parent. If you would like to hear from a man who has encouraged parents to abuse their children for decades, by all means read THE STRONG-WILLED CHILD. Just bear in mind that a better title would be CHILD ABUSE: A GUIDE.

kkarumba Aug 01, 2013

Spanking children within limits has worked for many generations. The idea that empathetic upbringing works is ridiculous as seen in the many undisciplined children who have been coddled the whole of their life. For starters, the military is a place where discipline is enforced without "babying" and the inner toughness.
Unfortunately, some people overdo it and that’s what gives a spanking a bad reputation. This is not what is advocated for. I am going to read this book and make up the mind for myself.
At the end I say, I suggest that you bring up your children the way that works for you. I will bring up mine the way I was brought up and I know works.

YONI BREMNER Dec 06, 2012

TERRIBLE! I'm astounded a Dr of Medicine would include religion and quote the bible in a book. He writes about and endorses corporal punishment. We had no idea who this guy was until my husband looked him up on the internet. I'm embarrassed I took out this book! Then I found "Beyond the Sling" by Mayim Bialik, PhD and that is more in keeping with a gentle and empathetic way of parenting. Or try "The Happiest Baby on the Block" or "The Happiest Toddler on the Block".

connorthomasbremner Dec 06, 2012

TERRIBLE! I'm astounded a Dr of Medicine would include religion and quote the bible in a book. He writes about and endorses corporal punishment. We had no idea who this guy was until my husband looked him up on the internet. I'm embarrassed I took out this book! Then I found "Beyond the Sling" by Mayim Bialik, PhD and that is more in keeping with a gentle and empathetic way of parenting. Or try "The Happiest Baby on the Block" or "The Happiest Toddler on the Block".

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